Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Being a Happy Stay at Home Mom

Yesterday I shared with you some of what I have faced transitioning to becoming a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM). The transition was hard for me in ways that I did not really expect it to be. It had never crossed my mind that I would feel a little bit lonely in this new season of life. Today I wanted to take time to share with you some things that I believe truly help me to enjoy being a Stay at Home Mom. One thing I have realized in this transition is that the more intentional I am about my time, the happier I am. I love being a SAHM, but it isn’t always easy. Here are some things I have learned that help me to enjoy staying home:

Start Your Day Early: Now, if you are the mom of a newborn, I would probably give you a break on this. Those first couple months, you definitely want to soak up every ounce of rest you can get. Having a newborn is a lot of work. But when you are out of that stage, starting your day early is extremely helpful. I would go even further to say, starting your day before the little ones is even better. I experience a total difference in a day where I roll out of bed to the baby crying versus a day when I set my alarm to wake up before him. Even if it is only thirty minutes before the baby, it is extremely helpful. Jase is up between 8-8:30 right now, so I try to get up around 7am. I like to do my devotions and maybe even grab some breakfast before he wakes up. The silence in the morning is rejuvenating and a great way to start the day.

Spend Time With the Lord: I know not everyone who reads this blog is a Christian, but in my life I truly find a difference in the way my day plays out on if I spend time in God’s presence or not. I am more patient and less likely to worry about so many things when I am spending time in the word. I am a much better mother when I am seeking God at the start of my day. The days that I don’t get around to it, I really can tell a difference.

Exercise: I know when your days are built around feeding a baby, changing the baby, laying the baby down for naps, keeping your house somewhat in order, and hopefully squeezing in something for yourself the last thing you want to do is exercise. But I can tell you from experience I feel a hundred percent better about myself when I have spent time exercising. Even if you only spend twenty minutes, it makes a huge difference. I have more energy throughout the day and we all know mom’s need all the energy they can get.

Shower/Get Ready: Showers help you feel refreshed. I know it is easy to bum around, and sometimes it doesn’t make sense to get all ready when you aren’t going anywhere, but it really does help your mood. Sometimes getting ready for me is showering and throwing on yoga pants, a V-Neck, and my hair in a bun. I know that isn’t an all out getting ready, but because I got out of the sweatpants that I slept in I can feel a little more put together. I don’t like to lounge around in jeans all day; they aren’t incredibly comfortable to be on the floor with my child in. Yoga pants offer a happy medium – comfy, yet I don’t look like a bum.

Open the Blinds: I cannot tell you how great letting the sun shine in through the windows feels. It brightens up the house in turn brightening up my mood. Who isn’t happier when the sun is shining?

Schedule Play Dates: Yes, even for babies! Play dates are sometimes better for mom’s than they are for the kids. We are made for relationship with people, so don’t spend every day stuck inside. Call a mom friend and go to a park, or the mall play area, anywhere! Get out of the house and spend time with other people, you need it. If you don’t have very many mom friends, reach out. It is hard at first, but it is incredibly worth it.

Turn off the TV: Some days I am not even watching it, but it just stays on in the background for noise. Or maybe I have a Mickey Mouse on just in case Jase wants to watch it. Turning the TV off and replacing it with music alone makes me feel like I am not being lazy. I truly believe it also encourages productivity. Most of my free time when Jase is napping is spent on the computer because I work from home. It’s easy to do that with the TV on, but when I turn it off it encourages better focus. How about trying to turn the TV off and replace it with music or a podcast, even if it’s just for an hour.

Be Intentional: Being a SAHM you don’t always have deadlines to meet or someone there to tell you when you are doing an incredible job. I love feeling like people need me. Not in a conceited, “You couldn’t do anything without me” kind of way, but I just like feeling appreciated. It always meant so much to me when my boss would compliment me on a job well done or when he thought I was doing an incredible job leading my area. It made me feel like I was accomplished and important. I know that I am important as a mom, and I know my job is one of the most important jobs out there, but you also don’t get someone telling you that a lot. There isn’t someone coming behind you saying, “You did a great job keeping the baby occupied today” or “You did an incredible job cleaning the kitchen.” So sometimes it is hard to feel like what I am doing is important, even though I know it is. Sometimes it is harder to feel like I am doing anything at all. Being intentional about what I am spending my time on makes a huge difference. When I have a list of things to accomplish, and I do them, I see that I am accomplishing things. Taking control of my time allows me to feel like I am being productive even when things seem meaningless or routine.

Find Something For You: I think this is the most important. It’s easy to get lost in being a wife and a mother – but that is part of you, not all of you. Find something for you, something that brings you joy. Whether it’s working out, sewing, crafting, writing – whatever it is, find something that allows you to still have your place. It is like an escape for you to feel like you have something that is yours. This blog is mine and I will be sharing more about that next week.
Are you a Stay at Home Mom? Or do you work from home? What are some things that you do to keep your mood up when at home so much?

4 comments:

  1. LOVE this. I totally agree with each & every one. Getting up early has helped me so so much :)

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  2. I'm a full time working mom and I agree with all of these things. Since I'm a teacher I get holiday breaks and summer. It is a huge adjustment for me each time it rolls around. Getting up before your little one is a great idea regardless of your job. I wish Jack slept until 8. I'm lucky if Jack sleeps until 6 so waking up before him can be a real challenge.

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  3. These are fabulous tips!!! :-)

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  4. being a stay at home mama is the best.

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